Pinoys Spill How Much They Actually Spent On An Engagement Ring

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First, we asked the single guys. Now, married and engaged men get real about the pressures of buying a ring—from deciding on the diamond's size to figuring out how much to spend on it. Getting down on one knee is a difficult business, as these guys prove:

Name: Andrew*

Age: 27

Occupation: Sales and Operations Manager

Industry: Hardware Supply

Monthly income range: P40,000 to P80,000 (combination of salary and income from rental of a condominium unit).

What year did you propose? 2015

How long were you with your fiancée before you popped the question?

Eight years.

There’s a belief that guys should spend three months’ worth of their salary for an engagement ring. What do you think of this?

Honestly, it’s really hard to digest how much an engagement ring can cost. With social media and celebrity blogs or websites putting an emphasis on the size of the stone in the ring, there may be some heightened expectations coming from your future fiancée.

To answer your question though, yes, three months’ worth of one’s salary should be enough to get a ringalthough this cost can go higher or lower depending on your diskarte and how much the size of the ring matters to you or her.

How much did you actually spend for it?

I ended up buying my ring in Hong Kong, and spent around P200,000 including flight and hotel accommodations.

What kind of research or preparation did you do before buying the ring?

It was actually a spur-of-the-moment thing. I was with my family in Hong Kong around September 2014, and I accompanied my mom to a small jewelry shop that she frequently visits there. I already had plans to propose at that time, but hadn’t told anyone yet. But one thing lead to the other, and I ended up buying the ring during that trip. The hardest thing would definitely be getting the correct ring size. I admit that I fumbled on that one and ended up buying a ring that was too big for her. Good thing the shop was able to resize the ring when we came back as a couple after I proposed.

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How was your engagement ring shopping experience?

It was a whirlwind! Being a guy, I really wasn’t aware of the many different aspects of a ring. From the size of the stone, to the shape, what material to be used on the band itself, there were really a multitude of options to choose from. Good thing my mom was there to help me sort through the choices, and more importantly, break the language barrier.

Do you think your choice of ring had any impact on your relationship?

I’d say no. I mean, I got a pretty standard (maybe a bit above standard) sized ring, and it got the job done (she said yes!). Honestly though, I feel like a relationship that would go through changes based on the size or quality of the ring isn’t a healthy one. If you feel like she will say no or will complain due to the quality of the ring, then there might be some stuff to talk about.

But I will say this. Seeing your fiancée happy and proud to be engaged, while her friends gush over the ring, will give you a pretty good feeling.

If you could give a piece of advice to your younger self, what would you tell him?

Get that ring size down early! It’s probably the hardest thing to get without tripping any alarm bells. 

* Names have been changed.

Up next: Diego, 28. Monthly income: P60,000

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Name: Diego*

Age: 28

Occupation: Sales Agent

Industry: School and Office Supplies

Monthly income: P60,000

What year did you propose? 2011

How long were you with your wife before you popped the question?

Three and a half years into our relationship.

There’s a belief that guys should spend three months’ worth of their salary for an engagement ring. What do you think of this?

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I don't really believe in spending three months’ worth of my salary for an engagement ring.

How much did you actually spend for it?

If I remember correctly, I spent close to about P40,000 for the engagement ring. At that time, I didn't have a stable job. I was a coach and was baking on the side, so I was earning about P10,000 to P15,000 a month only. Even if it were close to three months of my salary, I bought what I thought was the perfect ring for her (and not considering the monetary value). Of course, I had to consider my budget then, but that was the least of my concerns. 


What kind of research or preparation did you do before buying the ring?

Before actually buying a ring, I had to check her size first, so I had her mom get one of her rings for me. We talked to a jeweler to look at some samples and see what I can afford as well. In the end, I picked a thin band with a single diamond.38 carat in size, because I had to consider how small her hands are. Since she has thin fingers and small hands, I decided to pick a relatively small ring, so it won't be too big on  her. It was fortunate her mom was with me, since I didn't know anything about jewelry! She was the one who did most of the talking; I was just there to approve the design or not.

How was your engagement ring shopping experience?

Well, she liked the ring, saying it was the perfect fit. She told me she didn't mind not having HUGE diamonds on her ring, since her hands are small (proves that I really did my research). 

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Do you think your choice of ring had any impact on your relationship?

I don't think my choice of ring had any impact on our relationship. It's the fact that I proposed and was taking our relationship to the next level that mattered more. 

If you could give a piece of advice to your younger self, what would you tell him?

My advice to my younger self would be to just do what you think is right and give her what she deserves. You don't have to be afraid of what people would think. What matters is the happiness and love that you give to each other.

* Names have been changed.

Up next: Brian, 29. Monthly income range: P40,000 to P50,000

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Name: Brian*

Age: 29

Occupation: Lawyer

Industry: Legal Services

Monthly income range: P45,000 to P60,000

What year did you propose? 2015

How long were you with your wife before you popped the question?

Five years, six months.

There’s a belief that guys should spend 3 months’ worth of their salary for an engagement ring. What do you think of this?

I think that this is now an outdated rule. Three months' worth of salary for an engagement ring may not be good enough.

How much did you actually spend for it? More than half a million.

What kind of research or preparation did you do before buying the ring?

I did a lot of research on how to buy a diamond, especially on the four Cs. From there, I prioritized the Cs that have the most bearing on me and my fiancée (at least I thought so).

How was your engagement ring shopping experience?

Stressful at first. It was hard to browse through various jewelers, as they obviously will try to sales talk you to buying at their shop. It became easier when I met with the jeweler of my friend who was a private seller. He had no agenda, he actually educated me more than all the other jewelers combined, plus he sold me my wife’s engagement ring.

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Do you think your choice of ring had any impact on your relationship?

I think it did, for the better. Whenever my wife (then fiancée) would go out with her friends or relatives, she would always receive good comments about her engagement ring. Thus, she was so proud of itas a result, it made her happy, which also made me happy.

If you could give a piece of advice to your younger self, what would you tell him?

Always think about the happiness of your wife-to-be (happy wife = happy life). The engagement ring will be something that will be with her forever, just like her wedding ring. In terms of the proposal scenario, be true to yourself and stick to your strengths, and try not to do something for the first time, as it could be bad in the worst way possible.

* Names have been changed.

Up next: Eric, 27. Monthly income range: P30,000 to P40,000

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Name: Eric*

Age: 27

Occupation: Art Director

Industry: Media and Publishing

Monthly income range: P30,000 to P40,000

What year did you propose? I proposed July 25, 2016 in Coron, Palawan.

How long were you with your fiancée before you popped the question?

I was with my fiancée for eight years (going on nine years) when I proposed.

There’s a belief that guys should spend three months’ worth of their salary for an engagement ring. What do you think of this?

This belief would probably be a bit funny to me. I think it would actually depend how much your salary is. My fiancée and I are both practical. I didn’t spend too much on the engagement ring, with the idea that I really wanted to get us a nice house.

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How much did you actually spend for it? I spent P60,000 to P70,000.

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What kind of research or preparation did you do before buying the ring?

I actually didn’t do a lot of preparation. I already had a design in mind, and I just had the jewelry store execute it. I freelanced a lot during this time to be able to pay for the ring.

I actually have a funny story when it came to getting her ring size. At first, I asked help from my friend, who made us try keychains on our fingers for us to get the size. But when I was about to buy the ring, I secretly got my fiancée's co-worker’s number from her phone. My fiancée works for a retail company, so they had rings there. The co-worker made them try different rings, then she gave me the size that fits my fiancée's finger.

How was your engagement ring shopping experience?

It was quite a funny one. Being younger at that time, I didn’t want my parents to know. So I actually shopped around without my parents, knowing that I already wanted to propose. I had a couple of friends with me when I was choosing. Then, I learned that the owner of the jewelry store was actually a family friend. She gave me good advice on how much I should spend, so I ended up getting a good deal when I bought the ring. The first thing I said to the owner when I bought the ring was to not tell my parents.

Do you think your choice of ring had any impact on your relationship?

I think the choice didn’t have much impact on the relationship. I think it just added more pressure on me, because I wanted a long engagement. We ended up fixing the date to November 2017.

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If you could give a piece of advice to your younger self, what would you tell him?

Don’t be afraid to tell your parents. They’re there to support you through anything.

* Names have been changed.

Up next: Fred, 29. Monthly income range: P30,000 to P40,000

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Name: Fred*

Age: 29

Occupation: Art Director

Industry: Creative Publishing

Monthly income range: P30,000 to P40,000

What year did you propose? 2015

How long were you with your fiancée/wife before you popped the question? 12 years.

There’s a belief that guys should spend three months’ worth of their salary for an engagement ring. What do you think of this?

I don’t believe in that. I just used the savings that I had from the first month I thought of proposing, up to the time when I bought the ring.

How much did you actually spend for it? P50,000 to P60,000

What kind of research or preparation did you do before buying the ring?

I started to ask friends and relatives for their alahera, then I went window shopping, so I can weigh out what’s most practical. After that, I researched for what kind of diamond to look for, then the style of the ring.

How was your engagement ring shopping experience?

My shopping experience was fun. People around you are always willing to help you look for an engagement ring, just for you to get married.

Do you think your choice of ring had any impact on your relationship?

I think it didn't have any impact, but I’m glad my wife liked it.

If you could give a piece of advice to your younger, what would you tell him?

Good job!

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