While many women choose to be mistresses and date someone that's already in a relationship, these 12 women were unwittingly the "other woman." Here's how they found out the truth.
- "Started casually dating and hooking up with a guy I met through friends. It certainly wasn't serious but went on for a couple months before fizzling out. Ran into him at the local pub one night. His face went white and he got completely flustered as he introduced me to his girlfriend. Initially, I assumed they started dating after we stopped hooking up and didn't say anything. She cornered me later that night and asked if/when we had been hooking up and I answered honestly. Turns out they had been together for three years. She dumped him minutes later and we went and did some shots together. We both lost 175 lbs of garbage from our lives and got a new friend out of the deal." [via]
- "We were having sex and when we were done, he casually said, 'Ok I have to go to my GF’s house.'" [via]
- "He was visiting on [holiday] when I met him. Everything clicked just right. He went home and we talked all day and every day for months. He even came back to visit me. I fell hard and fast. Then one day, I found his sister on Facebook. Then I found his Facebook despite [him] having 'no internet presence.' Turns out, he had a different last name, lived in a different city, and had a live-in girlfriend of five years. Everything came crashing down real fast." [via]
- "Went on a few dates with him, on the last one I went back to his place. The next morning I went to use the bathroom and realised it was full of women's toiletries. Upon closer inspection, one of the bedroom [wardrobes] had women's clothes in it. I got dressed and left before he woke up." [via]
- "Was dating him for almost five months. He had been divorced for about a year, and when I helped him move, I noticed a picture of him and his ex-wife in a box. I figured that he probably wasn't ready to completely wipe her from his life. A few months later, I was in the [wardrobe] putting my coat away, and noticed the same frame was in the back on a box, but that the picture was a recent picture of him and another woman. Not 30 minutes later, he took a call in his living room and then ran outside to talk on the phone. When he came back up, he told me it was work and he was having trouble hearing... but I knew it wasn't true. On our way to whatever we were doing, he stopped at a [petrol] station and ran inside, and I checked the call log on his car's screen to see who it was. It was a woman's name and they had talked every day for like three weeks. I checked her out on Facebook and there were pictures of him and his family all over her page.
Found out later it was his serious girlfriend back where his parents lived. I called him out on it, he told me I was crazy, we stopped seeing each other. They broke up a few weeks after all this, and then five months later, he got engaged to some other girl he had 'just been friends' with. So not only was I a side chick to the girl back home, we were both side chicks to another girl who lived a couple of hours away." [via]
- "I met him in college and we started dating. When we both came back to [university] from [Easter holidays], we picked up right where we'd left off but on that first date back I noticed he was wearing a wedding band. I asked him if that was what I thought it was and he was like, 'yeah over the break I got married to my girlfriend back home.' She ended up moving up to live with him. And I ended up finding out that he had a slew of side chicks. She found out and they are divorced now." [via]
- "We matched on tinder and talked for about three or four months. We met up too, though we only met up at her work. She was always adamant about dating and seeing each other. Well, she comes up on my 'people you may know' list on Facebook. I click on her profile and see she's been in a relationship with some dude for a year. The profile seemed outdated though so I looked for her on Twitter [and] saw recent pics and tweets about him. I confronted her and she got pissed and said I was stalking her, then never talked to me again." [via]
- "I met this guy who was a customer at my work. He asked for my number and we started casually seeing each other. At this stage, he told me he had just gotten out of a long-term relationship. He also told me that he doesn't have any social media apart from Snapchat. It seemed to check out, I tried to search for him on Facebook and couldn't find him. Things progressed physically and we hooked up. We continue texting and calling each other, I thought things were going well. I went on a holiday for two weeks and after I got back, he full on ghosted me. I was blocked on Snapchat and he stopped responding to my texts. At the time, I was very confused. I reached out to him a few times and sent him a, 'ghosting is a shit thing to do and I deserve better' message, to which he did not respond. I found out a few months later when running into him that he and the ex that he told me he ended things with were in fact on a 'break' and got back together. She found out about me and made him ghost me. Apparently, their whole relationship has been on/off. I got an apology for his behavior but did not forgive him. Funnily enough, three years later, he reached out to me via email wishing me a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. I did not respond." [via]
- "We were coworkers. We'd go out after work and sometimes he came by my place. It was nothing serious. I got suspicious when he'd get lots of phone calls that he'd never answer when we were together. The day of my annual [house] party, a friend of mine called me and confirmed that he was LIVING WITH his girlfriend and her mom??? He was texting me, asking what I'd like for him to bring to my party, telling me he was pumped to come. I just rolled with it. When he got to the party, I drunkenly made a huge scene and called him out in front of a bunch of people. I thought it was pretty hilarious and super enjoyed the rest of my evening. Work was pretty tense after that." [via]
- "Hung out with him for months, almost every day. I thought we were exclusive or whatever. Then I found some other girl's fake eyelashes on his bedside table. He tried to say they were mine (I don't wear fake eyelashes) and eventually came out and told me he'd been using Tinder to hook up. He got mad at ME for figuring it out. Another time, I saw a girl at his house on somebody else's Snapchat story, and that girl turned out to be the eyelash girl." [via]
- "Met [on] Tinder, but I live in a small city and we had mutual friends. We were dating for a few months, and there were really no indication that he had a girlfriend. He spent nights at my apartment two/three nights a week, we would go out together and even hung out with his friends a few times. He asked that we be exclusive probably within the first month, and he regularly posted on social media when we were out together. About three months in, I invited him to a mutual friend's birthday party that I was hosting. He says he’ll be there, and then I never heard from him again and he blocked me on all social media. When I asked my 'friends' about it, they told me they didn’t feel it was their place to say anything, but he'd been dating someone for over a year and that she was back from [uni] for the summer, which would’ve made it harder to sneak around and so he just ghosted me instead. Took me a really long time but I eventually found his girlfriend and told her, which led to her finding out about at least five other 'side chicks', all of whom thought that they were in a committed relationship with this scum." [via]
- "I met him at a bar and a mutual friend introduced us. I completely expected it to be a one night stand, but I was surprised that he kept in touch and wanted to keep seeing me. Things were going well for a while. He brought me around his friends, did more relationship-y things with me and generally treated me well. He told me he wasn't ready for a relationship because his ex had really hurt him in the past. I was understanding and didn't push for anything. Things started to get weird when I asked if we could be friends on Facebook; he had broken his phone and that was the only way I'd be able to communicate with him until he got a new one. He said yes, but I sent a request and he never accepted it. I saw that he continued to post though, which was weird.
After that, I did some snooping and noticed one day he had me in his phone under a guy's name, and I saw a post on Facebook to his GF that he never did, in fact, break up with. He told me he was checked out of the relationship but couldn't find it in his heart to break it off with her because she had no friends and he was her everything. I broke things off as soon as I found that out. I was really sad and a few days later I checked his Facebook because I missed him. He had posted a happy-looking picture of him and his GF with a lovey dovey caption about their anniversary. That's when I told him off and told him to never contact me again." [via]
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com/uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.