Safe words are just really awesome. In any kind of sexual play, having safe words decided upon and communicated beforehand means you can be as rough or kinky as you like, all in the knowledge that you can utter a simple word to make it stop if you want it to. The safe words chosen tend to be a little out of context, as this allows the submissive partner to say "stop" and "no" within play and then only use the safe word when they really mean it.
For BDSM beginners, most sex experts advise the 'traffic light' system. You'd say "green" if you're enjoying what your partner's doing and want it to continue. "Yellow" or "amber" can be said if you want to communicate that they're getting a little too close to your hard limits and you want them to chill. And "red," obviously means stop immediately. At "red," your play scene or whatever you're doing should end.
While we know the traffic light system may be the go-to for many couples, we can't help but be nosy (curious?) and wonder what other glorious words are being used in bedrooms and dungeons across the globe.
Luckily, global sex toy retailer Lovehoney has conducted some intimate research and asked people across the world what their safe word is. And...some are rather unusual. They even popped them into categories so we know which food and which celeb was used most...
Non-celebrity safe words
Food-related safe words
- Fairy Bread
Top celebrity safe words
- Donald Trump
- Justin Bieber
- Betty Boop
There were even Harry Potter inspired safe words that cropped up enough to make it on the list, including "Dobbie" and "Hufflepuff." JKR would be proud. So, if you're after a bit of inspo...
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com/uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.