Every so often, it's normal to feel like something sucked the energy out of your sex life. But it doesn't mean you're stuck in a permanent state of blah. If you need some inspiration to invigorate your usual sex-having, look no further.
Put on a sexy movie (Our suggestions: Blue is the Warmest Color, Magic Mike, or if you can handle it, Lars von Trier's Nymphomaniac, Vol. 1 & 2). Stay completely clothed but tease each other throughout. When it's over, hop aboard their lap for a dry hump, gradually removing each other's clothes and making out 'til it mutates into a wet hump.
Slippery Slow Slider
Hand 'em a bottle of body safe lube—the warming kind if you're feeling brave—and lie on your belly. Languish under their slippery slow strokes—make them take their damn time—until you're begging them to please please please slide up your thighs. If they cup their lube-covered fingers over your vulva with a thumb rubbing inside, you will get the happy ending you desire.
The Yab Yum
To get out of your damn head, go deep with a famous Tantric pose. Your partner sits cross-legged and you sit on their lap, pressing against their pubic bone. Synchronize your breathing, gaze into each others' eyes and rock back and forth. Almost unbearably intimate and slyly sexy.
If you're kinda inhibited, try getting started without him. Do what you need to do to get super turned on until you are so far gone that you no longer care about whatever's keeping you shy. Then slide your hips to the edge of the bed, open your legs, and call/text him in. He puts his hands on the bed, holding himself up and leaving a space for your hands so you can continue your self-love. (And the visuals for him when comes in and sees you? Mwah—*Italian chef's kiss*.)
Eyes Wide Shut
Lie back, put your ankles over their shoulders and shut your eyes to throw yourself into the moment. Your partner kneels, sitting back on one foot with the other foot by your hips. As they're touching you, have them press against you so you can feel them getting harder or wetter.
The Power Trio
Fire up a hardcore vibe so good it gives you no choice but to submit to its rumbles. (Try a wand-style vibe Magic Wand or LeWand—even their names get straight to the point.) Get on all fours, stick your bum out, spread your legs extra wide, then pull the ripcord on that baby. You will be all in, like, two seconds.
The Twisted Spoon
If a boner is poking your back and you want time to catch up in the arousal department, request a massage. Not only do you get the massage, which you damn well deserve, but plenty of time to just relax and focus on the sensations. When you're all melty, lie on your side for a lazy spoon but put one leg forward in front of you. He slips his top leg in between yours for super luxe deep penetration.
The Black Widow
An unexpected position immediately focuses your attention on what's going down. Hop up on an armchair like a ninja, with your feet and hands on the chair's arms. If you can hold yourself up—and you can because you're a goddamn ninja—you will be perfectly positioned for some solid internal stim and an interesting view.
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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.