PSA: To make sure your spanking sex is the good kind of hurt, talk about it first, use safe words, safe materials, and make sure the spankee gets all the aftercare (cuddles, conversation, etc) they need when you're done. Then, get to it.
The Firm Hand
Try a classic—an over their knee spanking — but pop in a few vibrating Ben Wa Balls beforehand so each strike gives you a little jolt. If they slide a hand under you to stroke your clit gently in between slaps, you will be lost in the best way.
The Butt Bongos
Adding P-in-V to a spanking makes the foreplay extra fulfilling. He sits in a chair. You sit on his lap, lowering yourself onto his boner, then lean all the way down so your hands are on the floor. He lifts your hips or swats your bum, as needed/desperately wanted.
Spank The Monkey
Send your partner into a transcendent pleasure-pain state by taking control. Have them lie across your lap with their knees bent up so their butt is exposed to you. Tease their butts with whatever you're gonna be hitting them with (hand, flogger, spatula...) then give a sharp surprise smack. Alternate the pain with a gentle stroking or a hand job. (If you're with a penis-haver, a slippery masturbation sleeve is nice as well.)
Strike, Dear Mistress
To try out some dom/sub role play, have the spankee lie backwards on a couch with their legs bent back by their head and butt up on the back of the couch. The spanker stands behind the couch wielding the instruments of their choice. If the spankee wishes to touch themselves during, they may, but only when the spanker gives permission after a satisfactory amount of begging.
The Dungeon Doggie
Doggie is ideal for being *~ravished~* with a spanking-sex combo. Assume the position but put your face down into a pillow so you'll experience your partner's touch more vividly. He alternates stinging strikes with deep thrusts. A well-placed, yet sporadically applied vibrator, will add an infuriatingly pleasurable layer of torment.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.