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The Right Way To Start An Office Romance

Before you go in pursuit of your hot coworker or respond to his advances, read Cosmo's tips on the best way to go about it. Don't say you didn't get the memo!

At one point, we've all crushed on a colleague. But actually dating a workmate is tricky business since the complications of our love lives could possibly leak into our work. However, when done tactfully, staring an office romance can be stimulating and fruitful in the long run. Here's some advice for turning flirtation into a potential relationship.

Testing The Waters

Before making a move, it's a good idea to suss out whether your work crush has the hots for you, too. Some tip-offs are "if he starts hanging around your work space a lot or asks you to grab lunch or after-work drinks," says Stephanie Losee, co-author of  Office Mate. It's also promising if he's in an unrelated department yet asks your opinion on a project of his—it indicates that he is looking for an excuse to talk to you and values your opinion, notes Losee.

You can do your own digging by jokingly saying "Everyone thinks we're seeing each other, ha-ha. Crazy, 'di ba?" If he casts a wide grin or seems into the idea, the coast is clear to start flirting and see what happens.

Avoid Getting Busted

Once you've gotten together (we know you'll be able to work it), keep mum about it. "If it turns out to be a two-week fling, nobody needs to know," says  Helaine Olen, co-author of Office Mate. And, monitor how often you bring him up. Olen says--coworkers often intuit a liaison when one--person mentions the other too frequently—for example, "Here's that report... Jon helped with the graphics" or "Where'd you go for lunch? Oh, Jon loves that place!"

But if you were chummy before, don't ignore him now—that draws more attention than the occasional friendly moment does. No matter how covert you are, people are likely to catch on, but there's no need to broadcast it.

When To Come Clean

Most companies are lenient about dating (except between supervisors and their subordinates), says Lois Frankel, PhD, author of Stop Sabotaging Your Career. "They recognize its ubiquity." But, there may be rules about whom you have to inform and when.

If it gets serious (that is, it's going on for several months), it's wise to tell your boss—even if you don't have to—before she hears it from someone else, notes Frankel. Just say "I wanted to let you know that Carlo and I are dating. We'll be sure not to let it interrupt our work."

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