How To Do The Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position *Really* Well

Ride hard, girl.
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Reverse cowgirl is a classic sex position, but that doesn't mean attempting it isn't scary as hell. Do you like, get on top and then twist yourself around? Or is it easier to get on while you're ass-to-face? What if, like me, you have the grace of a waddling duck?

As far as woman-on-top (or as I like to call them, vulva-on-top, because we're here for gender inclusivity people) positions go, this one can be a little intimidating. Why would you want to try it? Being on top puts you in control so you can move around in a way that feels good for you. Plus, riding away will leave your vulva/clit exposed for extra, external stimulation. So, Lovehoney sex expert Sammi Cole explains how to master it.

What is reverse cowgirl?

Reverse cowgirl (the sex position where the partner on top straddles the penetrating partner, and faces towards their feet) is one of the UK’s favorite sex positions. Almost one in seven people (14 percent) chose it as their favorite in a Lovehoney survey.

It can be achieved no matter your gender identity or sexualityif there's no penis involved, you can always use a strap-on.

Get into position.

The penetrating partner should lie on their back, while the partner on top straddles them with their knees, either side of the lower partner’s hips. Or, if it's more comfortable, they can squat over their partner, with their feet flat on the bed. When they’re both ready (and have used plenty of lube, slowly lower onto the penis or sex toy.)

Move on up.

The partner on top is very much in control, so mix it up and do whatever feels best by varying the speed, and depth of the penetration.

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Try moving back and forth, or in circles, instead of just up and down.

If it’s a woman, or female bodied person on top, they should try arching their back, which changes the angle of penetration and allows the penetrating partner to stimulate the G-spot.

Get handy.

This position provides easy access to the clitoris if it’s a female-bodied partner on top, so why not give a helping hand if necessary?

The vast majority of women and vagina-havers find it tricky to climax through intercourse alone, and need extra stimulation. You can introduce a bullet vibe into proceedings to add some more fun.

Switch around.

If the penetrating partner has testicles, the partner on top can play with them as they continue to grind. Or if the partner on top starts getting tired, the lower partner can wrap their hands around their hips to help with the thrusting.

This is also a great position to experiment with some soft bondage items like a blindfold or some handcuffs.

Enjoy the view.

Position yourself in front of a mirror in the bedroom, and watch each other as you gain momentum. The visual stimulation can really add extra excitement for both partners.

Lots of people love reverse cowgirl because they get an amazing view of their partner’s butt.

Plus, for many couples, it can be an exciting switch-up in the power dynamics of the relationship.

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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.

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