1. Where is the G-spot?
The real G-spot is named after Ernst Gräfenberg, a German gynecologist who first wrote about it in the 1940s and '50s. It's usually located about five to eight centimeters inside the vagina, on the front wall of the vaginal canal—pressing towards your belly button, rather than towards your back.
Although it differs from woman to woman, many ladies report a patch of flesh in the G-spot area about the size of a coin that tends to plump up during arousal, and which may feel puffier, slightly ridged or more textured than the surrounding tissue.
Scientists argue about whether the G-spot exists as a distinct anatomical structure: Some claim it's part of the "female prostate" and cite ultrasound studies suggesting that it is indeed a separate, identifiable physiological structure in the body. Plenty of other medics now think that what's being described when people talk about the G-spot may actually be an internal part of the clitoris, while others reckon it's simply a patch in the more generalized va-jay-jay region that feels particularly sexually sensitive to lots of women.
What we do know for sure is that stimulating this zone makes many (though not all) ladies feel decidedly ZAP and POW and KABOOM in the most delicious of ways. Some say the orgasms they experience through jiggling their G-spot feel decidedly different to the cumming they conjure up by coddling their clitoris, and many report that firm, rhythmic pressure on this hot spot is key to female ejaculation for them.
2. How to make a girl cum?
There's no one-size-fits-all magic move that will make a woman orgasm, which is why it's so important to communicate. Or cum-municate, if you will. Ask your partner to tell or show you what touches and techniques work for her personally, perhaps by masturbating in front of you.
Be aware, too, that different moves and motions may feel more or less intense or effective according to what point she's at in her menstrual cycle: A technique that drives her wild when she's surfing the crimson wave might make her want to wave you away when she's ovulating, and vice versa.
3. Can you get rid of herpes?
So many people are derpy about herpes; it's badly misunderstood by the general public, despite being incredibly common.
Herpes is a sexually transmitted infection caused by the herpes simplex virus, of which there are two main types: HSV-1 and HSV-2. Both types can cause cold sores as well as genital herpes, depending on where they are caught.
If you do get symptoms, they may include blisters on the genitals lasting 2-3 weeks, which can be very sore, and flu-like aches and pains.
These symptoms can be treated, but the herpes virus itself unfortunately cannot be cured. It remains in the nerve cells of the body for life, so you may have more flare ups again in future; the average rate of recurrence is four to five times in the first two years after being infected. Don't panic though; there are lots that can be done to manage problems. People who get frequent recurrences may be given anti-viral tablets to try and prevent outbreaks, and over time, the virus naturally tends to become active less frequently and each attack becomes less severe.
To avoid passing on herpes, never have sex during an outbreak, and use condoms. If you're a carrier, there will always be a slight possibility that you will transfer the virus to a lover when your intimate areas touch during sexy times, thanks to a pesky problem called "asymptomatic shedding," but using condoms reduces that chance.
4. How to get rid of genital warts?
Wart the hell should you do?!
Well, you have a lot of options. Treating genital warts depends on the type of warts you have (some are soft, others rough and hard, plus they can be raised or flat), and where they're located (the vagina, groin, or anus). You might not need any treatment at all: Up to a third of people find genital warts disappear on their own within three months. DON'T just cross your fingers and your legs and leave 'em, though; it's important to see a medical professional and get a qualified opinion on what action to take and how to avoid passing warts on.
Topical treatments involve applying a cream, lotion, or chemical to the warts, whilst "physical ablation" techniques destroy the warts by freezing, lasers, or minor surgery. Sometimes a combination of treatments will be prescribed. They can take a while to work, mind, so it’s crucial to persevere.
5. What is the clap?
Despite the name, "the clap" rarely receives rapturous applause, because it's a slang term for gonorrhea.
There are several theories about where the nickname originated. Some people think the term stems from "clapier," an old French word for "brothel," where you might well catch such an infection from fucking saucy maidens of the night. Others reckon it refers to an ancient "treatment" (WARNING: I'm about to describe something scarier than sharing a sleeping bag with Pennywise): Clapping an infected penis against a table with a heavy book or bible, to force any discharge out. It wouldn't cure the problem, but it probably would stop you having sex with anyone for a while…
6. How to get a bigger penis manually?
This question is more heartbreaking than an entire page of Sad Keanu memes. The truth is that no-one needs to grow their penis; they only need to grow their confidence.
There are all manner of pumps, stretchers, and extending devices advertised online that are supposed to make a man's dick bigger. While pumps can be helpful if used carefully under medical instruction to aid men with erectile dysfunction to get hard, I would never recommend any device or exercise designed to increase the size of a dude's wang. Most methods don't give significant or long-lasting results; lots require you to spend hours if not days wearing an uncomfortable gadget; and some run serious risk of causing injury by damaging delicate penile tissues. Ouch.
You can trim your pubic hair to make your peen seem less "buried" (although some folks like a treasure hunt!); being healthy can help it look more prominent; and wearing a cock ring can help maximize the size and stiffness of your erection (plus add extra stimulation for your partner if it vibrates). However, the best course of action is to make peace with the natural dimensions of your body; self-confidence is one of the most attractive traits a person can have in bed, and being a good lover is not dependent upon the length of your cock.
7. How to measure a penis?
More sadness! "Measuring a penis" does not equal "measuring happiness."
There's only one decent reason to measure your manhood, and that's to make sure that you're wearing the right size of condom. If you find standard rubbers slipping off, try a slim or trim variety; if they're genuinely too tight, opt for an XL style.
To measure length, hold a ruler against your erect penis from the pelvic bone to the tip. To measure girth, wrap a tape measure around the widest part of the penis. If your penis has quite a bulky head, you may find flared, "pleasure dome," or "mushroom" shaped condoms most comfy–they fit snugly round the shaft but are roomier around the glans.
8. How old do you have to be to buy condoms?
Condoms are available to buy at any age from pharmacies and shops.
So, there are few excuses not to get "condominant": Put yourself in charge of getting your hands on condoms, learning how to use them properly, and insisting that they go on every time you get it on.
9. How to insert a male organ into a female organ
This sounds like the beginning of a dad joke about instruments found in churches, but I wonder whether this Q is in fact an exceedingly formal way of lumping (humping?) together all the zillions of slang-bedecked type-questions that young people will be Googling.
Essentially, they're asking about the basics of penetrative vaginal sex.
If you've got fundamental questions about the ins and outs of sex and relationships, and want reliable, easy to understand answers, check out certified health websites as they have some great resources for older siblings, parents, or carers who want to talk to young people constructively about sex, too.
10. How long does sex last?
Research carried earlier this year suggested that the average sex session lasts 19 minutes: 10 minutes of foreplay and nine minutes of intercourse.
Really though, it should last as long as you and your partner both want it to. Sometimes you fancy a fun-size quickie. And sometimes you want an intense session with plenty of indulgent, escapism, exploratory play.
If you're a guy, or sleeping with a guy who doesn't feel his erection is lasting as much as he would like, but you're not ready for medications like Viagra yet, try a cock ring. It's a soft, stretchy loop that you slide over your penis once it's hard and position at the base, where it gently prevents blood from flowing out too fast, helping you maintain a stronger erection for a more substantial period of time. Super doper hoop-a!
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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com/uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.