Spooning is great for intimacy—it's basically just a cuddle and fuck combined—but sometimes, you want moooorrrrrrrre. Here's what to do:
The Serving Spoon
If you dig the cozy laziness of spooning but it doesn't quite get you there, these tweaks = huge difference. First, press your legs firmly together for a tighter feel. Second, tilt your pelvis down a little so your clit is getting more contact with the top of his penis. Third, fill his hand with lube and press it between your legs so he's cupping you. He glides his hand up your vulva on the out thrusts, down on the in.
For a more intense vibe, lean your body forward and curl up—it's like you were in doggie, but fell on your sides. Slide your feet back between his legs while he holds onto your hips to pull you deeper onto him for OMG-level penetration.
The Slutted Spoon
If you like fast, explosive sex with lots of thrusting, lift your upper leg up and hook it back around his butt. He props himself up on an elbow and grabs ahold of your thigh for the deep vigorous thrusts you crave. Position yourself near a wall or headboard and prop a hand or foot against it for leverage to match him thrust for thrust.
Nestle yourself between your partner's legs and guide the sexy, sexy spray of the detachable shower head between your legs. (The love of a shower spray can be kind of intense, so make you're the one wielding it.) Your partner can cup your boobs and kiss your earlobes—you just lean your head back on their chest and bliss out. If, tragically, your shower head is not detachable, a soapy hand job works or gentle clit massage works too.
Spooning is great for first time anal because you partner's weight isn't on you and it's harder for them to suddenly go way too deep. Follow the usual anal precautions (buckets of lube, go super slow, etc) and make it hotter for you up front by sliding a curved metal wand inside your V. Gently rock the toy inside you, matching his thrusts. (Use a towel to hold onto the end—it can get slippery.) He'll dig it too because he'll be able to feel the smooth head gliding against his shaft as he thrusts. If you want to class it up further, he can pop in a metal butt plug for intense p-spot stimulation.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.