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5 Sex Positions To Try If You're Really New To Kink

Best part: You can do all of these without buying props.
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"Sexual desire is politically incorrect, often thriving on power plays, role reversals, unfair advantages, imperious demands, seductive manipulations and subtle cruelties," writes relationship expert Esther Perel. If you or your partner have both been wanting to dabble in some power play (and already discussed your boundaries and safe words), here are some kinky sex positions to get you started:

The Edge Of Their Seat

Sit your partner's naked ass down on a straight-back chair and restrain their wrists behind them. Tease them mercilessly—slowly strip, brush a boob across their cheek, or straddle their thigh. Use your mouth, hands and not quite enough P-in-V to take them to the very edge of orgasm, then stop. Repeat until they beg for more.

Earned It

Start your role play an hour or two before sex and it will feel much hotter when you actually get there. Order your partner to give you a long massage or wash dishes naked–whatever you're feeling. When they've "earned it," straddle their face and direct their mouth and hands as you please. After you're fully satisfied, you can focus on getting them off. Or not. You're the boss. PS: This is amazing if you're usually shy about asking for the kind of touch you really crave.

The Hard Pass

If your body finds a little pain very pleasurable when you're super turned on, try this position. Stand by the edge of the bed, leaning down onto your elbows. You partner alternates short sharp smacks on the ass with sweet, tender strokes inside of you. Your job is just enjoying the overwhelming mix of sensations.

The Sex Doll

Try playing with sensory deprivation and control. For a little kink that requires no equipment, lie on your back and lift your shirt so that it covers your eyes. Stay absolutely still–you're not allowed to move—and let your partner use you as their personal sex doll. Letting yourself submit completely to another can be super erotic and weirdly empowering, so long as you talk about your do's and don'ts beforehand. It also feels very vulnerable, so make sure your partner is someone you really trust.

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The Footsie

Turn a foot rub for you into pleasure for two. After you get a decent massage, start to occasionally brush your feet against their crotch. You can toy with them by pretending it's just a few innocent movements, or you can get raunchy right away. With a penis-haver, press your arches on either side of their shaft and move up and down. With a vulva-haver, circle their clit with your big toe or the ball of one foot for less intense stimulation. Either way, use a ton of lube and maybe squeeze in a nice foot pumice beforehand to keep your feet as smooth as this move is.

Jill Hamilton writes the blog In Bed With Married Women. Follow her on Twitter.

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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.