1. Regular Sex.
If you're in a longer term relationship, you probably have a routine that you fall back on a lot. And that's not a bad thing! It's a routine because you both like it and it gets the job done.
2. “We Still Have Fun” Sex.
Whether this is sex on the kitchen counter just because you can, sneaking off to the bathroom at a friend's party, or maybe using some crazy new toy together, you still have plenty of not-exactly-vanilla sex.
3. Baby-making Sex.
Obviously everyone's relationship timeline is different, but for a lot of couples, it's around this time that those who want kids will try to conceive. Having sex with the end-goal of having a baby is drastically different than recreational sex, in the same way that driving to the local supermarket is different than driving in the Indy 500. It can still be fun, sure, but it’s also a lot of work and planning. You’re having sex, but you’re also involving charts and schedules and at times it can even feel like an obligation.
4. Pregnant Sex.
Once you accomplish that end goal, figuring out what works and what doesn’t while one of you has a human gestating inside is a whole other unique experience. And as the pregnancy progresses, new and unique challenges crop up.
5. Post-baby Sex.
It’s jarring to go from months of conceiving and pregnancy sex to suddenly going back to "normal." It’s weird in the same way getting a cast off is weird. It’s totally normal and yet just a tinge unfamiliar.
6. Sexual Reawakening Sex.
Sex lives ebb and flow. By the time you hit your thirties, you’ve probably realized you like new things, and even with a long-term partner by your side, had a few dry spells and insatiable periods.
7. Second-Honeymoon/Adult Vacation Sex.
Depending on how long ago the wedding was, some couples elect to take a “second honeymoon.” That’s code for, “a vacation where we leave our responsibilities behind.” And that’s code for “sex vacation.” And that isn’t code for anything. “Sex vacation” is pretty blatant.
8. “The Kids Are At Their Grandparents” Sex.
Remember whenever you’d spend the weekend at grandma and grandpa’s and they’d let you eat lots of candy and buy you toys and let you stay up late and it was the best? Yeah, well… the entire time that was happening, your parents were banging each other until they passed out.
9. “We’ve Got About 15 minutes To Kill In Between All The Things We Have Planned Today” Sex.
When you’re in your thirties, you’ve racked up enough friends and work acquaintances that your calendar is pretty packed. Plus, your friends start having kids and now you need to worry about things like children’s birthday parties. And if you have your own kids, you also have their schedule. Sometimes you just need to capitalize on a window of opportunity.
10. Woke Up Before The Alarm Sex.
Just like above, this is essentially “found time.” Sure, the negative is you lost out on some sleep, but if you both woke up early, you might as well spend some quality time together.
11. “I’d Rather Have Sex Instead Of Watch The End Of This Movie Tonight” Sex.
Those of you who are beautifully naive and in your twenties may be asking, ‘Why not have sex and then watch the end of the movie?’ Bless your young heart. If you’re in your thirties and you’re getting frisky during a movie, you won’t have the energy to do everything. You have to choose.
12. “I’d Rather Watch The End Of This Movie Than Have Sex Tonight” Sex.
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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.