Birthday: June 1 - July 22
Type: Cardinal water sign
Key words: Emotional, nurturing, protective, intuitive, sentimental
Love anthem: "The Shallow" - Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper
When it comes to a perfect match for Cancer, Scorpio easily takes the cake. The two water signs share emotional compatibility and a lot of similar values when it comes to security, trust, and commitment. Taurus is another great match for Cancer—both are slow-moving, loyal, and love to get comfy and cozy. The Moon’s fave sign is Cancer, but its second fave is Taurus, so they share that lunar connection as well.
As the first water sign of the Zodiac, Cancer is intuitive and sensitive, and as a cardinal sign, he’s motivated to make intimate emotional connections that promise to last. At first, this shy guy probably can’t even look your way without blushing and turning away. He’s prone to overthinking things and might not be able to approach you, but if you make the first moves, he’ll hold on tight and do anything for you. Cancer is incredibly nurturing, committed, and protective of his loved ones, and does everything in his power to make sure you’re comfortable and feel safe with him.
If you like to spend quiet evenings with your boo on the couch, watching Netflix and resting your head on his shoulder, look for a Cancer!
Your Cancer boy is the king of cuddle puddles. He’s ruled by the Moon, which in astrology represents feelings, and one’s inner self. As a result, he's sweet, romantic, and a total softie. If you like to spend quiet evenings with your boo on the couch, watching Netflix and resting your head on his shoulder, look for a Cancer! He loves to spend time at home as opposed to lots of traveling and socializing. Crabs live in their shell, and carry their home on their back wherever they go. They’re slow-moving critters, too. Your Cancer man is the same—he’s a homebody, and a relationship with him moves along gently and steadily, with no alarms or surprises.
Being a water sign, there’s an abundance of emotion in his soul and he needs to feel comfortable enough to express his feelings with you. He takes trust and commitment very seriously, needing a lot of reassurance and open communication. Sure, he’s a great listener and is amazingly receptive, but actively expressing his own emotions isn’t the easiest. Without encouragement from you, he can keep his feelings bottled up. But if you invite him to open up, he'll share a rainbow of emotions with you!
Cancer wants a relationship that feels like home, so there’s a certain amount of security he requires. Hookups aren’t really his thing, because he knows that if he’s physically intimate with someone, he catches feels quick. And, in general, it'll take you a while to get out of the talking phase with him, but once he feels safe, he's committed. Sexually, he’s a true romantic above anything else, and looks for intimate and erotic moments to get him going. Sex is slow, with lots of body contact and emotional connection, mirroring the overall relationship.
Of course, this abundance of emotion can backfire when he's not in a good mood. His sensitivity and need for assurance can make him really needy and draining at times. And yes, while his commitment to you is obviously a huge plus, the flip side to that is it can turn to clinginess. You might struggle to do anything by yourself, and when you address it, he might take it the wrong way and think you just don't like him. So look for a Cancer who has a strong passion or hobby outside of his relationships (a good rule of thumb for all partners, TBH).
He's full of love and will forgive you, but a Cancer never forgets.
He also can get very passive and quiet. He’ll follow your lead and is very compliant in providing you with what you want, but won’t speak up if he feels neglected (even if his feelings of being ignored are just a wistful by-product of his eternal moodiness). Instead, he recedes further into his shell, and if you aren’t able to coax him out fast enough, he might lash out with those claws of his.
This guy has a lot of walls and only lets them down when he’s 100 percent sure he can trust you, so open up! When he’s ready to go to the next level in your relationship, he will, but pushing him out of his comfort zone in any way is a big no-no. If you’re together, he’ll put his heart in your hands, so be extra careful with it! Ragging too much on the parts of himself he’s insecure about is a surefire way to start drama. He’s full of love and will forgive you, but a Cancer never forgets. But if you're looking for someone who you can be extra, unabashedly cheesy with, he's your lobster, er, crab.
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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.