It goes without saying, you don’t have to be “best friends” to have a great relationship (some people even gag at that idea). But while others might think of you as insular or clingy, you know better.
1. You started out as friends.
Great things take time. Baked potatoes, fully mature redwood trees, and friendships that turn into relationships. First dates feel different than first hangouts. You really get to know each other’s personality when you’re not as worried about trying to impress the other person.
2. He makes you laugh all the time and you make him crack up.
It’s not just about how he makes you feel, or how great the sex is, or how well you work together. When you hang out, you wind up cracking each other up so much you can’t breathe. Some of your favorite memories are the two of you doing the dumbest stuff and laughing about it nonstop.
3. He always wants you around.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a “guys’ night” or a five-hour road trip; he wants to hang out with you. And it feels natural too. When he’s out with friends, you never get the vibe of “oh, he brought his girlfriend along.” You’re his friend, so you’re everyone else’s friend. Basically, all his guys just sees you as “that one friend he also has sex with”... which is a compliment, really.
4. You always know what he’s thinking.
It’s not quite like you can read each other’s minds, but you’re so comfortable with each other that it really feels like that sometimes.
5. He’s seen you through your worst moments.
He’s gotten you through some of your darkest moments, however you define them. Even when other friends drop off or stop calling, he’s there for you, and you’re always there for him.
6. You can spend a day just hanging out.
It’s not that you both love being couch sloths all day, but you could be and still have a good time. You don’t need to be making Instagrammable moments constantly to feel like you’re having a good time. All you really need is each other.
7. Other couples hate you just a little.
They might not say it to your face, but you can tell they’re insanely jealous of the chemistry you share. You can tell. Basically, you make other couples look boring and they can’t stand it.
8 You don’t feel like you need time apart from each other.
You know how to prioritize “you” time when there’s something you want to get done just for yourself, but everything you do just feels somehow better when you’re with them.
9. He trusts you deeply.
Not just in the basic ways, like trusting you not to cheat on him when you go out. That barely even counts; that’s just assuming you’re not going to be a garbage person. He also trusts you with things he’s never told anyone, like his embarrassing secrets.
10. It still feels like you just started dating.
You still have this energy that’s stuck around even though you’ve been dating for years. That “honeymoon phase” never really ended for you.
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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.