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Enhance Bedroom Bliss With Lube

Experiment with the slippery stuff to make your sex life more satisfying and exciting.

A sexy smile, good hands, rhythmic hips--no doubt, your guy has what it takes to get you off. But, there's one more thing that can seriously up your odds of climaxing. Experts agree that personal lubricant, a.k.a. lube, can make every aspect of sex more satisfying.

"With a little extra lube, every touch and thrust will feel smoother and more pleasurable," says Eric Garrison, a consulting sexologist in New York City and Boston, and author of Mastering Multiple-Position Sex. And because you're wetter, your partner will feel more confident, which will inspire him to try new moves and positions.

That's just the beginning. Here, find out why this liquid accessory should always be within reach of your bed.

It Has Undeniable O-Boosting Potential

In an ideal world, your body would provide enough natural lubricant to keep you slick from the moment he slides his hand between your legs to that last frenzied moment of intercourse. Unfortunately, that's just not likely. "There's a myth out there that if a woman is completely aroused, she'll get really wet and stay that way," says sex therapist Debra Macleod, author of Lube Jobs: A Woman's Guide To Great Maintenance Sex. "But the fact is, you can be turned on and either not get wet enough, or even experience desert-like conditions down south."

The reason: Things like medication or being slightly dehydrated can prevent you from getting moist. Or, your body may simply not be able to produce lubrication at a fast enough rate to keep up with the action. And if you're not wet enough, penetration will start to--ouch!--chafe.

But, adding lube doesn't just prevent sex from hurting; it also helps the two of you maintain the steady rhythm most women need to orgasm. "When you're wet, he can thrust continuously, and it's easier for him to vary the speed," says Macleod. "That extra stimulation will help build sexual tension and bring you to climax."

Why It'll Be His New Best Friend, Too

Think about the hottest days of summer, when you're walking around and your thighs stick together--that's pretty much what it feels like for your guy when he tries to enter you and you're not wet. Psychologically, dryness can have an even more negative and traumatizing effect on his libido. "While a guy may logically know that a woman's wetness has nothing to do with his sexual prowess, subconsciously, he still may think he's not good enough in bed to arouse her," says Natasha Janina Valdez, a sex therapist in Los Angeles. "But lube lets him forget about that fear and focus on how good everything feels."

Most men will have no problem with trying something new. But on the off chance he's hesitant, kiss his neck and tell him that if he doesn't like it, you'll toss it. Trust us: That won't happen.

Sexy Ways To Use It

First, pick your potion. Water-based lubes feel natural and totally un-gooey. Plus, it doesn't damage latex condoms the way silicon-based lubes do. Cooling lubes add a little spicy play into your bed action, and force you to be a little more creative as to which body part you'll use it on. Whichever you pick, be sure to keep it nearby so you don't have to stop and hunt for it.

"Start by incorporating lube into foreplay," says sex therapist Gina Ogden, PhD, author of The Return Of Desire. "Have him place a pea-sized drop on his fingers before he rubs your clitoris." Since that spot is made up of delicate skin, a smoother touch will ensure that it doesn't get irritated. You can do the same for his penis--put a tiny dollop in your palm before rhythmically stroking him.

Using a condom? Put a small amount inside the tip before rolling it over his shaft. "Many guys complain that a condom diminishes the sensation," says Garrison. "Adding a little lube ups the sensitivity he feels inside the latex." When you're ready to have him enter you, have him place a dime-sized drop on his fingers, and rub them around the entrance to your vagina, or you can DIY.

Warning: Using too much can reduce friction, to the point where you barely feel each other, so be conservative--you can always add more.

Advanced Tricks

Anytime you're handling his package, lube can make things wetter and better. Surprise him with a hand job by placing some in your palm before holding him. Then, use a good grip--about as hard as you would squeeze a banana without it getting mushy--as you slide up and down.

Oral sex is another fantastic time to use the slippery stuff. "Women often use spit, but it can be hard to muster up enough," says Ogden. "A flavored lube provides enough wetness, so your jaw won't get as tired." Consider buying a sample pack to taste test before buying many sachets.

Bottom line: There isn't a spot on your body that lube can't go. "Lube can work like massage oil," says Macleod. Just watch what happens to foreplay when he drizzles some over your breasts and lets his hands glide all over you.

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